https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog daily 0.75 2024-07-07 https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/feeling-alone-in-a-relationship-you-could-be-missing-the-literal-we monthly 0.5 2023-01-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1674770971259-LO2DM6VMI4QRYY7GWKG7/unsplash-image-HrbtNUMswCs.jpg Lisa's Blog - Feeling alone in a relationship? You could be missing the literal "we". - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/z76pt0d8piwphhemnoil7p667um75g monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/s7xxcbojd0beq8yhgwat77f6v9z4df monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667409971582-RSC87VPRJ8MITRL0SS9F/unsplash-image-aC5_EFhq7Fs.jpg Lisa's Blog - Should we stay married? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/xlzyrt3z1b28yjvgpjjdjvdtapbvuu monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667409695431-8HPWUMLOGY48YLT6HVS9/unsplash-image-IWhEOVJ-aj8.jpg Lisa's Blog - Bestie breakups: Advice for girls on coping with the loss of a friend - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/972k2q6u93vw30x9mvlxy49um333t0 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667409367769-SPIRO7QHCK846SCM43O1/unsplash-image-4WJb9LWItWc.jpg Lisa's Blog - 10 ways to tell if you’re really practicing vulnerability in your relationship - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/kiohpr51n6h4d9lrgcce79vfg528c3 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667409010906-LTO2HJ4AYXNDLACN84JL/unsplash-image-6GQ7V2l5iPA.jpg Lisa's Blog - Why “I’m sorry” Isn’t always enough - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/la9jbf613akk3zpisn3qzwyz3cnnt7 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667408691944-UWKBZZ3EKW8JR9SAD6A7/unsplash-image-ELnxUDFs6ec.jpg Lisa's Blog - Are you creating a culture of judgement in your relationship? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/fndn3twt3hfq6g6dfroi268ze9mmb1 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667408440019-BZ81MBJBTC2LXLWILNHH/unsplash-image-eoll6jVrEM0.jpg Lisa's Blog - How to truly love someone - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/zcj5fi9w2ddtyhdnefxpw05jqhzwhr monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667408256286-YYRA19V1QVH5XM0KDPP7/unsplash-image-9vNFtkm-Pus.jpg Lisa's Blog - How to give grace to your partner during the quarantine - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/xyy820deo95siw99gcurti6v8n3khw monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667407867582-AK9BF48H7NIKTAG9IQTM/unsplash-image-0vWMHOtXnao.jpg Lisa's Blog - Parenting in quarantine: Digging deep - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/20jfiv8ah6i1jdu65tu324ozvkbtc3 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667407075191-3WGE6UFIHLAHNFNGCJ48/unsplash-image-vgaiXx0hp44.jpg Lisa's Blog - Sexual desire, intimacy & how it impacts your marriage While men struggle with desire, women are actually much more likely to experience low desire in their relationship, losing interest in sex before men do. It’s not because women don’t want to connect with their partner, in fact, quite the opposite. Women look for and desire connection and a sense of togetherness first and foremost. For women, intimacy doesn’t have to mean sex, but sex has to mean intimacy. It’s the culmination of what we’re feeling overall. Desire isn’t just sexual but incredibly emotional especially for women. Desire is the want and attraction to our partners that can lead to a more active sex drive. For many men, sex drive and desire can present themselves before the other stuff. Not that emotional intimacy doesn’t play a large role as well, the two just work in a bit of opposition for men and women. In men, sexual desire is present, and emotional intimacy or lack thereof influence the strength of that desire. For women however, emotional intimacy creates desire and greatly influences the amount of want we have for sex. Women are also more likely to experience what’s often referred to as “cognitive labor” too - the overwhelming and exhausting sense of spinning many, many plates. Like just another “job” that needs to get done, sex becomes something else, another thing, that someone is wanting and waiting for. It becomes just a “duty,” if that. And duty might be the space many of us - both women and men - feel we’re at right now. We’re in a time of unprecedented changes to our family routines and structure around work and school from home. Our obligations, duties, for both men and women, are abundant. When this happens, and things feel chaotic or stressful, it can be very easy to settle into a space of checking boxes and just getting stuff done versus feeling like there’s time and opportunity and even a want to be connected - emotionally or physically. We’re tired, but this is of the temporary, fleeting kind of loss. Losing desire when you’re holding onto what’s been built up over years and experiences, children and responsibilities, resentments, hurts and beliefs surrounding sex, can take much longer to detect and work through in a marriage. Sexual desire comes from a space not only of having a positive attitude surrounding sex, experiencing pleasure for oneself (not just the partner), and feeling connected with your partner, but our sense of value is also at stake. Now it’s no longer a question of “who am I in my relationship?” but “who am I?” It’s a battle of wills in the mind and while we can sometimes physically get to sexual enjoyment even with all the mental chatter, we’re not in the headspace to want sex or feel connected during it. Sex becomes simply transactional. When we sit in a space of duty we look for reasons (most of the time not very consciously) to stay there and we find them. Rest assured, we will always find what we’re looking for when it comes to evidence against moving toward and leaning in because it’s vulnerable and much more difficult to do so. Duty begets duty begets duty. That is, until we actively try and move the needle, even in just the slightest way, toward desire. It can take a lot of evidence for us to know changing is worth it. Moving toward desire however isn’t a wait and see opportunity, it’s a try and create situation. If you’re struggling with desire and are finding yourself more fitted into the “duty” category, accessing what you’re holding onto isn’t just vital to you , it’s vital to your sense of self, and your emotional and mental well-being. If you can’t quite work toward leaning into your partner, at the very least, leaning into yourself is of the utmost importance. Self work and deep reflection is that absolute place to start, but we can’t just stay there. Bringing our partners with us on this journey is the thing that’s going to bridge the gap between what you’re thinking and feeling and your sense of togetherness in this. Start by letting your partner know that you’re committed to working on figuring out where desire has gone for you. Let he or she know that you’re going to be self-exploring, it’s going to take some time, and that they are an important piece to this process. Be clear about what you need from them in order to feel supported. This could mean that you ask that sex be off the table completely while you’re processing this in order for you to get clear on where you’re at. Then, begin diving in and ask yourself questions. Since I’m a huge proponent of journaling, I always find journaling and time to self-reflect one of the biggest needle-movers when it comes to change. Explore where your ideas around sex came from, what you like and don’t like about sex, what keeps you connected or disconnected from your partner and hurts that you’ve held onto. Reflect and then start talking together. Changing your dynamic around sex is a very personal process, but it’s one that can’t stay in your headspace alone. What we experience personally affect our relationships greatly and our relationships often impact our sense of emotional wellness around everything else. Knowing you can count on your partner for support and encouragement will make all the difference in how your desire is impacted through this process. Questions about sex to get you talking On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your satisfaction with our sex life? What’s something that you’d like to do differently? What is sex about for you? Does your expectation of what our sex would be like fit with our reality? Was there a time you felt our sex life was better? How and when do you feel most connected with me? What makes you want to have sex with me? After we’ve had sex, what do you feel? What feels good for you outside of intercourse? https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/p2zxb19i21lwm9mcy582mr3cn6krsz monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/swr086an0wr9fsrts1819nsagbc5n0 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/8xb86d1mgf3peb8zn059xvygufd01j monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667342116565-PG8ATIAVRIK5YH8RQNUB/unsplash-image-LuK-MuZ-yf0.jpg Lisa's Blog - My home is full: A story of trauma and resolution over two decades My husband’s family didn’t really go out to eat that much growing up he tells me. And, in the nearly twenty years we’ve been together, we’ve had many conversations about how “it’s not all about the food” and “yes it is.” It’s what we bond over, and sometimes how. If our kitchen table could talk, it would tell stories upon stories of gut-wrenching laughter, and gut-wrenching pain, and everything in the middle. The kitchen table is where it always happens. So why wouldn’t we go out to eat for dinner on Mother’s Day? This year, we each spent the day with our own married with children families and then came together in the evening. I loved it. It was the perfect combination of a day spent with my husband and children, partaking in our own traditions as well as enjoying time with my own mother. Plus, we got to eat out in the “big city” and that was a bonus for us all since we tend to stay in one of two zip codes most of the time. I don’t know what it was about that dinner that made me so happy to be there. It’s not like my kids acted any less crazy at the restaurant or even in the car on the way there for that matter. I think it was one of those things that I saw in my mind years before it’d ever happened and being there taking part in it was just fitting and wonderful. My parents, sitting there with their kids and their grandkids, my sister with her husband and my nephew, my family being there. There was such a sense of togetherness from the moment we’d all sat down and it was complete. The dinner table felt full. We’ve had many hard conversations at dinner tables. And to our family, it doesn’t really matter whether the conversation is at one of our dinner tables or a public restaurants’ dinner table or even someone else’s houses’ dinner table. Grab a table, some chairs, some food, and it’s a dinner table no matter where we’re at. I find it so annoying when we’re out at a restaurant and the table next to us or across the room is being so loud, laughing and talking fervently, until it’s us. There’s no shortage of topics to talk about, and talking about difficult topics is not new to us. Like most families, we’ve had some unexpected life events, and difficult times together. We’ve also had some seriously hilarious, hysterically crying fun times too. Sometimes it can get tricky for the spouses who have learned how and when to jump in, but for the most part, they get it right and I think conversationally keeping up with my family when we’re really being authentic, is pretty daring. One of the topics that has come up more frequently in the past few years has been surrounding a sexual molestation in our family, and the stand we’ve taken. And we haven’t always taken the same stand. Those of you reading this who have experienced sexual abuse or trauma can understand easily that sometimes the stand you want to take isn’t supported. Sometimes you stand alone. Most of the time victims of sexual abuse or trauma within a family aren’t just traumatized by the event or events that have occurred, but the even deeper detachment of family and friends who are unsupportive, more forgiving of the perpetrator, less serious, or don’t want to deal. It happens often, and in this way quite simply, quietly and the legacy of family secrecy and then hereditary and serial victimization becomes what it is. It’s clearly not that simple, that’s merely an outline, but there’s a general sense. At age fifteen I became a victim. Since age fifteen I’ve stood alone waiting and wanting for the rest of my family to come aboard my island. I would’ve let anyone on for the mere desperation to not have felt alone and scared and like I was doing something wrong or bad. Sometimes they paddled next to me and we’d hold hands across our boats, then wave goodbye as I paddled forth to my island and they paddled back home to theirs. Sometimes they’d even come up on the island to check things out, poke around, see what it’s like. I’ve even had a couple of family members and close, close friends come aboard to tell me my island sucked and it’s not even real and it doesn’t matter. But no one ever stayed, except my husband. Who never even considered there was anywhere else to go. Living with the experience of molestation has been painful, but not nearly as painful as being alone in my stand of what is right and what is wrong. Living with the experience of molestation has been painful, but not nearly as painful as being alone in my stand of what is right and what is wrong. For nearly twenty years, holidays and family gatherings have required pressure to attend even though my betrayer was there. Conversations every single Christmas season, multiple conversations, about whether or not I was showing up for Christmas at grandma’s, and then if I’d be bringing the kids. Lines were very blurred and it was clear that if I was going to be making a scene, it’d be my scene. It’s interesting what family systems do with a trauma when it comes to another family member’s involvement. There’s an invisible, but very heavily weighted line that’s drawn as if to say you’re either with me or against me. And to be fair, I often played on both sides of that line. One Christmas I’d be angry and oppositional, but that was after Christmases of being too scared, too nervous, and too concerned about hurting other people’s feelings, or even embarrassing him, to tell my parents I didn’t want to go. There were other Christmases where I’d feel forgiving, some when I’d just feel numb. Some years I’d pretend he wasn’t even in the room, and other years I’d make eye contact, and even wish him a “Merry Christmas.” I continued to see my uncle at Christmas for at least ten to 12 years after he molested me. I didn’t know where I was supposed to stand, but what I did know was that I wasn’t supposed to be standing there by myself. Things happen, experiences occur in families that cause rifts and resentments all of the time. Many times these experiences come down to betrayal. Something happened that wasn’t in the expectation or description of who we think others are or should behave, or what we think others are actually capable of. This was the betrayal I felt. But as years passed, and parties happened that I was expected to be at, and no one else was saying ‘no,’ I slowly distanced myself away from my extended family, and even my parents and my sister. Resentment grew with every conversation about an aunt or uncle that had to do with my mom’s side of the family. In nearly every conversation I could find a way to trace it back to a divide. You’re either with me or against me. So I bowed out, and became quietly angry, the worst kind. Then I started to resent my own anger. I hate hating, having hardened feelings toward people. I hate conflict. In our house with my children, we rarely even use that word, hate. But living in this anger every day was, I’m quite certain, killing me. And I don’t think I hid it well at all. As a therapist I know the importance of verbally and mentally, and emotionally processing. I process with people all of the time, and I don’t think I ever stopped processing my experience and my shame. But, I did learn how my anger was part of my story just as my experience was, and just as my family members were. I learned, and re-learned, and then learned again (because I don’t think we ever really stop) that being molested wasn’t the title of my book, my life. It didn’t need to be. It did need to be a chapter, maybe more than one, because it happened and we can’t undo life. But the point is, it wasn’t my shame that I was carrying. I learned to re-write my story to honor myself and release the shame I was holding on to for my uncle. It wasn’t my shame. It was his shame. And I had nothing to be shameful of. There is experience, then there is acceptance, and finally forgiveness, but sometimes these things happen in bits and pieces. Eventually we hope that they do all come together. There’s been a recent shake up of family allegiance and alliance. Recent family news indicates that after a couple years of my uncle being out of the picture (I’d go on but this part’s really not my story to tell), some of my mom’s family members are having a difficult time staying in the arena taking a stand against him. I am okay with that. It’s not their story to defend me. I am not their daughter, nor their sister. I’m not his wife, nor his child. What happened to me is not their story and they don’t own my pain, or my strength. It is a story that exists within our family, and that cannot be denied. But it is not their story and forgiveness comes in many ways. Often times, when we’re faced with making a decision, taking a stand, we do so, but not always for the right reasons. We forget about the why part, and go along letting others’ emotions lead our way. This happens in multiple areas of our lives and throughout our lives. It is okay, but we cannot last like that. Our values, our family ties don’t belong to or in just one person. In family systems, we need the freedom to be able to take a step back and ask ourselves that question: Why? Why am I fighting? What am I fighting for? Sometimes this leads you to support others and be supported, and sometimes it does not. No one could’ve fought for me. I needed to and have done that by myself and for myself for years. Those who stood with me, aside from my husband, didn’t really know their why or their what, and so even my close, close family wavered. I understand. I was so, so lonely on my island, and so sad, so hurt for so long. But I do understand. They needed to figure out their own why. This mother’s day, my sister, her husband, my mom, and my dad told stopped wavering. They figured out their why, their what, and even their how. At the dinner table they presented me with a moment on mother’s day that I will never forget. My sister, holding my nephew, looked at me and said something that reversed years of devastation. “We all stand together. All of us.” Then, they grabbed their paddles and their belongings, boarded their boats and paddled out to my island. They docked, came ashore, and even told me to move over and make more space for them. And they’re still here. My home is full. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/mi768asdu3jmcexq1bvoqqx50qxgzn monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667341685865-ETQFT0J4UWUJYIOH1A3W/unsplash-image-tLZhFRLj6nY.jpg Lisa's Blog - Why I’ll never stop wanting to fit in social media Leaned over my shoulder, my daughter turns her head from my screen and looks at my face. “Mom, were you there?” No, I wasn’t. It’s not that I missed the photo op, it’s that I wasn’t there at all. “I’m sorry. Are you mad?” My daughter’s 12 years old. She’s in middle school, the land of the uninvited and wanting to belong. I had no idea that at almost 40, she and I would be occupying the same headspace. How is that even possible? I have a much wiser brain now than when I was 12. And, I’ve done a shit ton of emotional work. What the real f here? Have I not grown as much as I thought? Why am I finding myself affected by this? I’ve had this conversation hundreds of times. From clients to friends, to family members, the topic rings true across ages. Feeling left out, hurt, unwanted, like you don’t belong and had hoped that by this time you’d be over it or finally have found your people. And the thing is, while the conversation isn’t the same between the 12 and 40 year olds, the emotions are. The truth is, everyone wants to fit in and it sucks when you don’t. What I’ve come to realize is that it isn’t that you’ll never want to not fit in, so don’t wish for this. A sense of belonging is what connects us to the people we love, to the world. It’s freeing and vulnerable and where the magic happens. Where the magic freaking happens! Belonging is one of the emotions we long for for our entirety. But the ways in which we belong, the ways in which we want to belong and what it takes to get us there as we grow older, change. As I sat with my daughter and thought about the answer to her question of whether I was mad, I smiled to myself a little bit and thought about gratitude, always my go-to. In that moment, I was so grateful to know that I am capable of feeling deeper than anger. At one point in my life, I did not know that. At one point in my life, anger was my go-to. I was also grateful that I knew my shame demons were close-by and I could spot them. I haven’t always known this either. In fact, not that long ago I would’ve crumbled over this, my self-story reading things I wouldn’t dare say aloud, being unforgiving to myself and then taking it out on the people I love. I’m grateful that knowing this has saved my ass from a shame storm countless times and has kept me from unnecessary suffering. Finally, I am grateful, so grateful that I was sitting and having this conversation with my daughter who’s love I can feel every single day and who’s eyes and heart were looking to me to provide her with the sense that all was well, that I was okay and so was she. Being in front of her, processing an emotion at the same time I was feeling it, well, I was actually grateful for that too. Our food came, and while I had momentarily lost my appetite, the smell of the food and the warmth of conversation with family checked me back into the present quickly realizing I’m way more than just okay. I’m grateful. “Who you are to the world is pretty terrifying because what if the world doesn’t like you?” - Simon Spier, Love, Simon (thought by everyone, ever) https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/68v75wrii8t27xvzy0nd8lmtxnr4rf monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667232645285-5EDAMUUYH4F348HMXX6U/unsplash-image-5d20kdvFCfA.jpg Lisa's Blog - You’re not entitled to everything, and neither am I - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/60bqdbzydrz3eerh7eit5df15x6iah monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667231429577-S63ZO85OS06NB1W08V9Q/unsplash-image-L6W9ZIQ5saM.jpg Lisa's Blog - Photography helps settle my fear of time Over the past few years I’ve probably logged over 100 hours of photography and editing classes all working toward a personal goal of being a visual storyteller. I’m not a professional photographer and it actually gives me great relief to be able to pass right over the learning modules aimed at honing in on my money-making photo skills or adding that to the list of careers I’d like to have. I like keeping this one to myself for my own personal benefit. I don’t always know where to point the camera. What is “worthy” enough to be shot or whether the images will come out remotely close to the beauty my eyes see. I keep picking up the camera to capture the world this way, with its vast beauty. I want to remember every moment so I can stop time a little bit, so I can share a story of a setting, a laugh, a memory. I want to remember the way my son looks when he’s in awe of something, the funny faces my seven-year-old makes, my daughter’s favorite spot on the couch with our pup. I want to feel, when I look at an image that I’ve taken, like I’m back in that moment in time. Like I’m there with them and we’re reliving everything; the smell of the room, the vibrance of their clothes, hearing their laughter, me feeling the weight of the camera and my eye pressed against the eye-piece looking so intently through the viewfinder, waiting for the perfect moment to grab that will tell the whole story. Time scares me but I’m working on it. I try to tell myself that there are so many more moments to come, so much more to enjoy and that each phase in the children’s development while lending itself to its difficulties also brings such wonderful interaction and playfulness in new ways. It’s a script in my mind and some days, it’s helpful and takes me out of the sorrow giving me so much to look forward to. Other days the story I tell myself carries little weight and those days I put the camera down actually. I hold the boys with nothing in my hands and instead dig my nose into their hair, feel my daughter’s weight slouched against mine, hear their breath. Time is hard. It reminds me that I’m not in control and this takes my breath away. I struggle with the committee of perfectionists I have sitting at the long dining table in my mind. They talk about the should(s) and should not's of things I could have done better, different or not at all. They critique my every move and are in every lane of my life, including the photography lane. I like that I’m learning how to get a step ahead of these visitors but I can’t always. They’re so skilled in maze running. I just bought my seventh camera, the one I’ve been coveting for over two years. Buying it was like a rite of passage as I slowly, over 14 years moved up the consumer-grade camera line and into the professional-grade one. I wonder what my photography will look like in another 14 years. I wonder if I’ll still not know if I’m doing it right, have maybe bigger waves of confidence that last longer than moments or more pictures that come out just the way I wanted them to. I wonder if I’ll make better friends with time, if I won’t fear it in 14 years the way I do now. And I hope that I’ll have created stories that can tell themselves. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/puos3h73o8ufxmk4iu6y44yz6lyzk1 monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667230983150-EXX0YHUP8DBO91O5DNW4/unsplash-image-F9DFuJoS9EU.jpg Lisa's Blog - “Am I crazy?” The real real reason people go to therapy Do I Have Something Worth Getting Help For? I can vividly remember the pit in my stomach, the longing for I-don’t-know-what despair I felt in college that would come and go in waves. The feeling would seemingly show up at random, sometimes on my way back to school from a visit home, other times in the middle of a lecture. It waned in intensity but it was reliable, always ready in waiting. It showed up again when I moved into my first home in a town far from what I knew. And again after I had my first child. It was definitely something, but it didn’t fit into what I’d learned about depression or bipolar disorder. I didn’t want to end my life, and outside the life of college partying, I wasn’t addicted to anything. What I had to compare this to—the stories of family members’ behaviors that far exceeded my own, movies like “Girl, Interrupted,” “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest,” and looking at the world around me—didn’t quite fit with what I thought people went to therapy for. Now, 20 years later and a therapist myself, I know it’s exactly the kind of thing people get help for. An Unwanted Feeling A young mother of three sits sinking into the chair across from me. Overwhelmed by the demands of her small children and her husband’s busy travel schedule, she talks through the recent “meltdown,” as she calls it, that brought her to therapy. With no family nearby and no one to help with the children, her only means of connecting with others right now is through social media, where she sees other women doing this same lifestyle seemingly without a problem. She talks about how she can’t live up to the lives of the women around her and doesn’t know why. She thinks something is terribly wrong with her: “Why can’t I handle it?” No, she doesn’t have a panic or anxiety disorder—she’s suffering from a combination of loads of stress, bad social media habits, and a lack of mindfulness, presence, and connection in her life. This is a life far from what she knew growing up, where she was surrounded by family and friends. Loneliness, disconnection, and isolation aren’t familiar to her so it’s difficult for her to recognize this as enough of a reason to feel overwhelmed, and these are certainly not feelings she wants. Even though she has no disorder or mental illness, working on making new connections and fostering the relationship with her husband could really be beneficial to her, along with decreasing how much time she spends on social media. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” If I had to give awards for the emotions that show up most in the therapy room, it’d be a tie between loneliness and disconnection—hands down. These sneaky little suckers rarely just come through the door blaring their dismay. They like to hide behind other things like sadness, hurt, and discontent. They show up as irritability and can even be so crafty that they present as something else entirely. If emotional language and making connections between the mind and the body doesn’t come naturally, as it doesn’t for most, feeling displaced and uncertain in your own body and in your world is a common result. It can feel incredibly validating to put the pieces together that explain behaviors and emotions and make sense of the story that’s being created about our life. There’s a lot to it, and it isn’t always as easy as a puzzle, but it certainly helps to know we’re not alone. Uncertainty About Something A man in his early 40s reached out after he was given a promotion at work that seemed to bring on extreme irritability. He came in after his wife threatened him with a separation unless he could change. His confusion was palpable. He truly couldn’t understand what he’d done to deserve the threat. We discovered that the physical and emotional abuse from his childhood left him feeling like nothing he did was ever enough. Making that connection led to a discussion about his perfectionism, toward himself and others, and the shame he’s carried with him throughout his life. He was throwing his shame at everyone around him. And as Brené Brown said, “When perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver.” What presents as one thing, often brings about much more. We feel uncertainty about a feeling, a decision, or a path, about our role as parent, wife, husband, son, daughter, employee, or employer. The one thing we can count on in life is that so much of it is uncertain. Oftentimes, change happens before we’re ready, and even when we are there’s still transition, and unexpected expectations, thoughts, and emotions. There is a space in between extremes where most emotions lay stirring, unsure where to settle in. These emotions are the ones that make us feel different—different from what we’ve felt before, different from what we perceive we should feel, or different from what we perceive others feel. They’re the emotions that lead to feeling sad, confused, or unwell, or wanting to feel “better.” They might show up as bad behavior or a lack of communication. They may even show up as an affair or a loss. They could have a name already like depression, anxiety, or trauma. Regardless, they keep us thinking and feeling uncertain and unsettled. Wanting More A woman sits across from me, wiping her unrelenting tears, needing to take a break and a breath from talking as she recounts story after story of her husband avoiding, ignoring, and withholding love from her. She’s lonely and her tears fall from the heartbreak of a fallen marriage she’s unsure she wants to stay in. She came in after her doctor recommended antidepressants to help her. She’s not mentally ill, not clinically depressed, but she’s in extreme amounts of sadness and pain that make it hard for her to get through the day. She’s ashamed of the way her husband treats her and hasn’t shared her story with her best friend, who just celebrated her 25th wedding anniversary. “Why won’t he love me,” she sobs. Another client describes a boredom and a restlessness that leaves him unfulfilled daily. His brother told him to get on meds for anxiety, but he wanted to try talking first. In the office, he recounts fond memories of dirt bike racing with his dad and a life goal to run a half marathon. His long commute to work and the daily grind in a job he’s not that thrilled about have gotten in the way. He wants more and different, but he doesn’t know what that looks like. I hear stories every day of painful thoughts and feelings that have kept people from connecting with themselves, their friends, spouses, families, or anyone really. There are hundreds of words to express emotion that we don’t want to feel, that we’re ashamed to talk about, and to admit to our friends and family. Often, the emotions with labels and diagnoses are the ones we hear about, but they aren’t the ones I hear from where I sit. More and more people are coming to therapy for mental wellness—not mental illness. They’re coming for the emotions and thoughts we all have, we all feel, the unwanted, the wanted, the uncertain ones, and the ones that leave us yearning for more: loneliness, shame, embarrassment, disconnection, isolation, unhappiness, and confusion. The secrets that come out in my room are the ones we all have. The stories are as unique as we are, but the depth of shame and pain is the same. We all want someone to tell us we’re okay. “Am I crazy?” My reply—100 percent of the time—is, “God, no. You feel what you feel because you feel it.” And there’s nothing wrong or crazy about that. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/self-care-tips-you-can-actually-do monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667229827857-3O8T5WVZ7SGPULWXZRWM/unsplash-image-TOZqUHD8L38.jpg Lisa's Blog - Self care tips you can actually do If you’re a parent, a caregiver, a “2” (Enneagram peeps you know who you are) or have ever struggled with feeling stressed out or overwhelmed, chances are you could use a little self care, but outside of the options mentioned above it can be hard to know how to get it. Changing your perspective of what self care means to you can help you get what you need. The kind of care I’m talking about here may look the same as what you already do from the outside, but it feels much different on the outside. It feels purposeful, specific, and chosen by you. I consider self care to be something practical, easy to come by, and intentional with your time. It should also give you a sense of peace, accomplishment but above all, love. If you have to do it anyway, do it in a way that works with you and can feel good. If you’re taking care of others, you know time isn’t something you get much, if any at all. So when I’m talking about time, I’m not talking about all of a sudden finding yourself with an extra 30 minutes. I’m talking about taking some micro-moments you can take charge of. If you think about it, parenting and care-giving, busy homes and careers keep us running around, most of the time, right from one task to the next. Our emotional energy is taken up by the to-do list and physical exertion we feel when we’re quite literally carrying others. Self care isn’t necessarily a matter of adding more to your plate. In fact, if you had to take an extended period of your time and go somewhere it may actually bring on more stress than it care. No, what self care looks like in reality here can be done in your home. The environment we live in is a reflection of how we feel on the inside. Finishing a task or project you’ve started in your home can give you a sense of completion and ties up loose feelings of stuff left undone. Simplify the task by incorporating what you already do. For instance, instead of throwing in a big load of laundry in the wash that you then have to re-wash in two days because you forgot about it, do a small load of laundry, fold it and put it away. Instead of waiting until the sink is full of dirty dishes, empty your dishwasher in the morning so you can keep your sink empty throughout the day. Take a bath with a great bath bomb while you listen to a podcast (that might be stretching it, I know). Making dinner? Throw on some music. Breaking down tasks into manageable, bite-size pieces can help make you feel like you can step over that mogul instead of having to scale a mountain. The important piece is that it feels like care and love and feeds like soul food. There is a component of self care though that does require you to get out of the house. Taking care of your body and your health is one of the most important yet most under-prioritized things we do, especially when we’re busy taking care of other people. If going to the doctor for a physical, the dentist, the eye doc, chiro, acupuncturist or your therapist hasn’t happened in a while, chances are good that you’ve been neglecting yourself. While they don’t sound fun (except for the therapy part of course but I’m biased), knowing that you have a clean bill of health feels relieving and can be inspiring to keep yourself that way. Afraid you won’t get the clean bill of health? Even more of a reason to go. No one is going to stop and make you go to your doctor appointments yearly so do it for yourself as an investment into you. No one is going to show up at your door and give you extra time, I’m so sorry. And no one is going to take care of you the way you can take care of your self. Self care isn’t necessarily something you just do, it’s something you feel. Getting there might look different for you than your friend or spouse so ultimately what you need, only you’ll really know. Don’t compare the sense of accomplishment, confidence, fullness or love you feel with the size of the task or the length of time it took you to get there. Self care looks like time Self care feels like connection Self care fuels love Love fuels everything. If you’re struggling with self care ideas try one of these: Go through one drawer in your house and get rid of what you no longer use (only one drawer) Wash only your bedding and make your bed Flip through a magazine while you sip a cup of coffee or tea Watch a movie with your littles or whomever you’re caring for (not a Netflix series, just one movie) Sit and pet your pet Listen to a podcast while you’re checking off the to-do Download an audiobook that’s entertaining or nurtures you in some way Take a bath with your favorite bath bomb Diffuse an essential oil or burn a candle in your home Curl up on the couch with a cozy blanket as you go through your mail or plan your meals Put away last season’s clothes or holiday decorations Switch out your home décor and move some stuff around Change a picture in a picture frame Apply a face mask Watch your children play Bake something (from a box) Take a picture Journal Call a friend or family member Write a hand-written note to someone Color https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/how-to-keep-you-sanity-during-coranavirus monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667229728175-JJLIECBOF6EUWT7QRW8K/unsplash-image-q9nZUFC1nTw.jpg Lisa's Blog - How to keep you sanity during coranavirus House Rules Chaos needs order. While I enjoy not having to wake up and put pants on immediately to take my kids to school, and the freedom of a more lax schedule is appealing, I also need a quiet space where I can get my work done. And, the kids need to get their work done too. Media time, chore time, snack time, family time. Try to visualize what you’d like the days home to look like in the most successful-for-all-of-you ways possible. Then see how you can break it down. Will you be trying to maintain set work hours while the family’s altogether? Do you have a designated space you work in where you simply can’t be interrupted? If your kids are anything like mine, they like to eat - a lot. But they also like to ask me if I can make them food - a lot. And at random times during the day that just happen to be the times I just hit a creative flow. #amIright? What kinds of snacks and meals can I pre-prep for them that they can just grab on their own? Snack times and “kitchen open” times are definitely on my house rules. Your Rules For yourself, just you, what are the rules you need to put into place to keep yourself emotionally, mentally and physically well? Do you need to make sure you FaceTime family, friends, a co-worker every day? Can you keep yourself moving by streaming a workout? Always wanted to try yoga or pilates? Why not do it now from your living room? So many of us go through our day with little awareness of what makes us flow. Not just what makes us happy, but what we’re truly inspired by and are feeling the most healthy (mind, body and spirit). Now’s the time to take a look and see how you can replicate that in your own home on the daily. Get to Know Yourself If you’re uncertain as to what you like, what makes you tick and you had no idea what I was talking about with the whole “what makes you flow,” kind of statement listed above, it is such a great time to dig in. Seriously. Take an Enneagram test, read about Human Design, check out things like the Gene Keys. Get to know who you are and start really digging in here. Lacy Phillips “To Be Magnetic” podcast and website is an excellent option if you’re finding that you’re feeling energetically blocked. Luke Storey’s “The Lifestylist” podcast is another option for expanding your knowledge about the human body and ways we think. While you’re learning and reading, make sure you’re journaling as well. Conscious awareness is another way of saying “pay really close attention to your thoughts.” As you’re doing some self-work reflecting on your internal responses to your ideas about these new ideas, write it out. We can go deeper as we allow ourselves to be uninhibited journalists. Connection You might be asking how we can possibly be more connected, when we’re going to be together in a tight space for a prolonged amount of time. But yet aren’t we usually and we still don’t feel connected to one another? Connecting is different than just being or just “hanging out”. Connecting is an action word, it takes effort and requires that you make eye contact. Yes, you’re about to have a lot of family time. So, be purposeful and intentional about it with one another. If it’s family time then make it feel like family time. Play a board game, have a conversation, read a book aloud. There’ll be plenty of time to also watch a movie, get into a Netflix series together and do other media-driven activities. Use at least some of this time to connect with each other. Not sure how to do that? Start by downloading a list of conversation-starters. Play guessing games, or games like “Would you Rather?”. Break out the “vintage” board games like Chutes and Ladders, Payday, Life, Trouble, Sorry. Play is connection. Now’s the time to take what you know of your life and of your family, and start taking charge in making it work for you. At the same time, it’s also a time where there’s a lot we don’t know. So use what you’ve got and what you want to layout your vision of home. But most importantly, be flexible and remind yourself that these are unprecedented times in our lives. There’s a big part of us needing to be able to “roll with it” that also means giving up total control over the outcome. So do what you can in the moments you can. And remind yourself that there is absolute light at the end of this tunnel. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/you-cant-save-me-from-myself monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667229112199-JD4OHW20MS9X3SGSR2G4/unsplash-image-QJ1j4HOdNtI.jpg Lisa's Blog - You can’t save me from myself In a partnership, we often look to our partners for reassurance. But our seeking didn’t start with needing validation from our partners and unless our story’s been examined by ourselves, the seeking doesn’t stop with our current partner. We continue to seek because we feel a void we think is someone else’s job to fill. We’re convinced that if we’re given enough love, shown enough care, that’ll be all it takes, just for them to prove it. But you can’t get from someone what you can’t give to yourself. This becomes a faulty sense of security, and leads down a spiral of negative interactions with others. These are the interactions that reinforce the exact thing we’re fighting against and for at the same time: love. And the conflicts, the confusion, the lack of self-love can also manage to take down our partners at the same time. As human beings, we need relationships, we need connection, deep, meaningful connection, in order to grow. But we need it with ourselves just as much as we need it with our partners. Our partners are mirrors. Reflecting to us what we see in ourselves. You’re not worthy of loving connection? This is what you’ll see your partner giving you. If you believe it, you’ll accept it as truth. Yet if you don’t, and you know your worth, and you love yourself, you’ll do one of two things: see the message differently, or choose to reject the message that does not fall in line with who you believe your “self” to be. Yet this is all difficult to notice, especially if you’re not aware of your own limitations and personal faults, which we all have. Why does the story about yourself matter to the world? Because that’s the cycle of information you put into yourself and therefore the lens in which you think everyone sees you. Cycles create emotion, and emotion creates energy. What energy are you feeding yourself? What energy are you feeding your partner? And what energy are you feeding the world? https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/honest-and-direct-standing-in-your-truth-in-conversation monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667228683686-IOGXV5ZYDRXNA5SH3DJ9/unsplash-image-ttzoSPBYdrI.jpg Lisa's Blog - Honest and direct: Standing in your truth in conversation - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/mothers-day-a-bust-year-this-might-help-your-next-one-better monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667228196019-NMWLFFYCASTPBW1QWSTS/unsplash-image-5NLCaz2wJXE.jpg Lisa's Blog - Mother’s day a bust year? This might help your next one better. What does Mother’s Day mean? As a mother, or father for that matter, you’ve held expectations, often unbeknownst ones, of holidays like Mother’s Day since you joined the category. We all hold images and stories in our minds and hearts based on memories, our families of origin, and hopes we’ve created along the way. Even if you didn’t grow up celebrating Mother’s Day, you still carry with you the experience of not having experienced the celebration. Not having a certain experience can often in and of itself create an expectation. We do what we do based on what we want, what we’ve seen and what we know. If you’re struggling with disappointment or even more of a bummer - resentment - from your Mother’s Day, first, know that many, many moms feel a wide range of emotion around holidays, especially this one. Now’s a really good time to dig in and think about what lies beneath the surface of all that. Sons and daughters, husbands and wives each play very distinct roles in families. What always amazes me about families is the very different experiences each person has based on their family role and point of view. Think about what holidays like Mother’s and Father’s Day were like for you growing up? What were the expectations put upon you on this holiday? How did you see your own mom being acknowledged on Mother’s Day and whose responsibility was it to do the acknowledging? Did your dad have much to do with the celebration or was it mostly up to the kids? All of these things influence what we bring into our partnerships and parenting. Think about the experience you had, what you hoped for when you became a parent and bring it with you into a conversation with your partner. In most households, women still carry 70%- 80% of the caregiving roles and the division of labor isn’t really divided statistically speaking, even in homes where both partners have full-time jobs. While millennial partnerships are starting to close the gap on the work/life balance, according to Ada Calhoun in her book, Why We Can’t Sleep: Women’s New Midlife Crisis, they don’t account for the majority by far. This is a big deal and a huge number that often goes unrecognized, underestimated and unacknowledged when it comes to raising kids, and it’s not just unnoticed or unappreciated by men either. While women are getting better at lifting one another up (thank you Glennon Doyle, and Brené Brown, PhD) even within our own gender, the judgement and comparison within our own tribe is palpable. We’re often left feeling like we’re scrambling, not doing a good enough job and can’t catch a break within our homes, nonetheless outside of them. For many women, while Mother’s Day was a day they’d hoped to be “off the clock,” (“go ask you father!”) it’s also a day most women want even more longingly to be acknowledged for the role they embody and work they do in caring for another or other human(s) being(s). Put simply, that looks like “thank you” and feels like “I see you.” When I talk to men about their partners’ parenting and caregiving roles, I’m sometimes met with more reasons for not giving the accolade than for simply supporting the work women put into their roles as moms. Comments such as, “but we agreed she’d stay home with children,” and “I don’t get a “good job” at my office either,” are among the few. Outside of some clever responses and light-hearted banter back and forth, I generally acknowledge the feeling that’s behind all of this. “You’re right,” I say. “And think about how much better your work and your role at that company would feel if you were appreciated, seen, and heard for what you did as well.” We can all agree there isn’t enough support in most work environments including the ones at home. Yet where does that get us? Disgruntled, unhappy and ultimately looking for another position at another company. That’s not exactly what we want for our home life or our stay-at-home parents, is it? And as for the “we agreed she’d stay home with the children,” well, there’s a lot more to that than what initially appears. When a woman (or man for that matter) agrees with their spouse or partner to stay home and raise kids because it’s what’s best for their family, there’s almost always a sacrifice of self and identity that happens with it. Most of us don’t think that we won’t be able to get back into the workforce when we take the pause but it’s an incredible struggle to get back in once you’ve been gone for an extended period of time. We also don’t consider that a stay-at-home parent role is ultimately a 24 hour caregiving job and not just a day job. Ultimately working around the clock no matter what the position, leads to burnout, resentment and loneliness as well. For many moms, Mother’s Day is about the constant “do better,” “be better,” motto that runs on repeat all day, every day. It’s not about having the day off of work, it’s ultimately about getting some time and space from our own heads. We get that through validation of the tough job it is being a parent and thereby being appreciated and seen for the work that we do. The “I see you” weighs way more than the “thank you.” Build up your partnership first, then your parenting. If you’re married or partnered-up, the best way to acknowledge your other half on a holiday happens well before the actual day itself. In fact, so much so, that for some moms, Mother’s Day becomes the exact opposite of what they’d hoped for. Instead of being celebrated, having a break from being uber-responsible for the children, or making decisions that relate to anyone’s overall well-being that day, the day itself becomes the icing on the cake of feeling totally unseen. A cumulative effect of how many women feel much of the rest of the year. John Gottman, a Ph.D. and researcher and relationship guru has a tool to illustrate this exact concept. Gottman’s “Sound Relationship House,” illustrates a home of many levels, in which the very foundational layer that everything else is built upon is called “Building Love Maps.” “Love Maps” are about “knowing one another’s worlds.” While this might sound a bit daydreamy and exaggerated, the message is absolute: know your partner. Pay attention to their life, get curious about what happens in their day, their mind and their heart. Mother’s Day can be and mean a lot of things to a lot of people, as every holiday does. What it doesn’t need to be, is a surprising glimpse into the reality of a lonely partner. Yet it doesn’t need to be a build-up of resentment either. “Knowing your partner’s world” is also about sharing your own too. If you’re walking around stuffing hurt, feeling taken advantage of or building up your case that you do more, stop. Start sharing your experience and start getting to know what all that emotion is about for you. Christine Carter, PhD wrote an exceptional piece around Mother’s Day that was all about the ability we all have to put down the resentment in order to feel more respected and seen as a mother. She also offers some really great questions to dig into work/life balance as well. You can read her article here. Finally, while most men know the day is an important one, they don’t always understand their own role on this day with their wives. Categorically speaking, men aren’t wrong when they say you’re not their mother. This is obviously true. What may not be so obvious to them is the part they play in helping make this day a successful one for everyone. But in order to do this, they also have to know what your meaning of this day is, and the wants you may have for it. While you’re obviously not their mother, the children you share together have created roles for both of you. Your togetherness and the health of it is based more on partnership and not patronage. But how often are we as clear about what we want this day to look like, what gift we’d enjoy, or time we’d ideally love to spend? In all honesty, from most of the women I talk to, it’s not very often. Saying “I don’t feel seen by you,” while deep and truthful, is not the same as, “I need you to make every meal on Mother’s Day,” or “I want to spend two hours in the afternoon alone reading a book.” How and why should they know that otherwise if we’re not clear? Brené Brown, PhD says it best in her book Dare to Lead, “Clear is kind.” So if this Mother’s Day didn’t work out for you or your partner, the good news is you can start by putting together that foundation of knowing one another to make it better. And...there’s always Father’s Day ;) https://www.lisapisha.com/lpblog/what-can-you-do-if-you-feel-shame-around-race-right-now monthly 0.5 2022-11-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/618c184c1b91a33311255091/1667227875301-TWPGG7Z12FCM2SPOOR9N/unsplash-image-xw4pDqavzAs.jpg Lisa's Blog - What can you do if you feel shame around race right now? While some people know exactly what to think and do, it’s also a new time of unrest emotionally and mentally for others. For some, doing something about the state of the world and the injustices being seen is cast over by the shadow of also wanting to hide and say nothing because they’re scared, confused and don’t want to make matters worse. The spectrum of thought, curiosity and beliefs around racial injustice is not only systemic but interpersonal. Going inward into your core self and getting really curious will undoubtedly lead you down a very vast and very long path, one of many. There are so many tangled webs that exist within the issues that have been brought up in the world in the wake of George Floyd’s murder. From micro and interpersonal, to macro and systemic there’s a lot to take a deep, hard look at. How do I be the best human I know how to be with the issues at hand? How do I parent and teach within the realm of racism and what do I want to say? How do I lead in this? How can I show my support in this? How can I explain my opinions in this? How can I ask questions and be curious without feeling like I’m saying something wrong? What do I do? While George Floyd’s death was the very last straw for black people, people of color, and other men, women and even children who’ve been awoke and aware of the significant racial injustice present in the United States, it was also the very first impressionist connection of what racism and privilege look like for many white people. People are finally making the connection and becoming aware of the pain, hurt and historical abuse in black lives but we have a long way to go and so much more to learn and do. And there’s a lot to talk about. In any relationship that exists and is pressed for change, there is always more than one emotion, one thought or one voice. The issue of racial injustice is being illustrated right now on a global scale. But the issues have also illustrated what happens for people individually and internally as well on their very private, interpersonal levels and lives. I am a couples therapist. One of the things I help people do is attempt to understand (not always agree) where their partner is coming from. Expanding deep empathy and encouraging people to be vulnerable in order to grow individually and interpersonally is work I take seriously because from where I sit, it’s the only way we can truly grow. Most of the time, no two people in my office are coming to the table with the exact same point of view or emotional response to something. Sometimes one spouse is ready for a divorce and is sitting with defined thought-out resolution and a resentful heart while the person who’s just learning about it for the first time is sitting in such shock and disbelief they’re unable to comprehend the how or why. People in relationships everywhere are at different places in their hearts and heads much of the time, coming together from very different spaces. While many of us try desperately to convince our partners, friends, family members, anyone we’re in a disagreement with to come to our side of the table, to agree with us and our point, it’s often futile. And using force, anger, oppression or violence to do so will only result in more unrest. You cannot force someone over to your side who doesn’t know why they’re sitting there or believe it’s the right space for them. And if they go, are they there authentically, because they know why and have gone with their conviction? In any conversation, persuasion as a motive is a tough one to get someone to align to, so how do we get to resolution? How do we make this work? Dismantling shame and encouraging vulnerability in a safe space is the most direct path to growth between people in relationships and within themselves. This is what can create more empathy and understanding between people, but in order to do that we have to be present. Herein lies the problem: it’s incredibly uncomfortable. There is an inability humans have to tolerate discomfort. Yet the lesson in this is so important: We can tolerate discomfort and need to tolerate discomfort in order to become stronger, more convicted humans. We cannot, however, do this if in the face of deep, unlabeled shame. When people feel an imposed sense of shame and blame, they are less likely to also be in a place of personal exploration. Yet this is exactly where we need to be. Dismantling and disarming contempt and resentment has to happen in my office, in homes, and within relationships with others in order for space to be safe and self- and relational-exploration to begin to happen. But first and most importantly we have got to look at our own internal messaging and interpretation of why we’re feeling what we’re feeling. The messages often have much more to do with ourselves than others. I don’t believe the world we’re being shown and the racism we’re learning about right now is intended to create shame. Yet shame is showing up in people inevitably and irregardless as it does. Many white people are feeling unlabeled shame around their color, race, and privilege for the first time. For black people and people of color, this is not new, this is historical. This is where we can finally start to gain some understanding though. This is where there becomes a tremendous opportunity to grow as a race and as a nation. If we let our personal shame get in the way, it becomes an excuse and a place to stay instead of a place to start getting super curious about. Unlabeled, unacknowledged shame creates pain, suffering, and anger which makes defensive shields thicker in order to protect instead of disarming in order to grow. Shame is the ultimate sense of not belonging, being so incredibly unworthy that we have no place. Yet how does feeling as though we have no place help the world? This is, after all, where the pain we’re watching play out live and in front of us right now has come from. This is where we have the choice whether to pass the shame around, “throw shame” as I call it, or start disarming and lowering it. Shame is not the goal now nor do I believe there’s a place for it ever. While you may be feeling confused, fearful, uncertain of what to say or do, know that those emotions when dug into and peeled back, can help you discover things about yourself and humanity and grow in such a way, learning and feeling things you’ve never explored before. Shame though, when left to its own devices, keeps us quiet and away from relating. Alone, scared and small, often angry, defensive and avoidant. The lesson the world, black people and people of color are trying to teach white people right now isn’t about feeling shame. The lesson is about the share. To give voice to the quiet. To use our privilege to lift up and welcome in, not shun, cast away, or wallow in. If you’re not black or a person of color yet shame has been creeping into your self as of late, it’s a really good time to start self-exploring. Why do you feel shame? Where did it come from? How did it get there? If you feel shame, look within. 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I have been an individual, family and couples psychotherapist since 2004, a practice owner since 2012 and a life-long knowledge seeker and thought-explorer. My interests lay in psychology, spirituality, religion, systems theory and the exploration of the self. Through the work that I’ve done within my own ever-unfolding and evolving life, and the work I’ve witnessed with clients, I’ve developed a love and keen awareness in helping others gently uncover some of their own resistances to growth, shadow work, unconscious limitations and curious reflections to move into spaces of fully integrating all the parts of who we are. As therapists, our work to be aware of our unfolding as we hold space for our clients to do the same is great, magnificent and rewarding work that comes with a unique set of challenges for our own sense of self. We learned about the self-of-the-therapist in school. 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